Taking Care of Mom and Dad?

Are you faced with taking care of mom and dad? We found a really interesting article ” National Survey Reveals Children Choose Mom Over Dad.”  Found this article at Visiting Angels.com  An estimated 70 million fathers live in the U.S. today, but if they plan on moving in with their children in the golden years, they better might consider making some changes.

The recent national poll reveals 70% of adult children do NOT want their parents moving in with them.  Money won’t even motivate them.  85% say even if they got more of the inheritance they would NOT be more inclined to move in their parents.  However, if they had to choose, only 33% (1 out of 3) would choose to move in their dad over their mom.  The majority would rather move in Mom!

The national survey of more than 1,100 adults, ages 40 and older with both living parents. was commissioned by Visiting Angeles, one of our national’s largest in-home senior care companies with more than 450 offices throughout the country.  Doll’s Havens is a senior / elder care facility.  A private home whereby you parent lives with in a home environment and food and day to day assistance is provided.  It has a warm home  style  environment.  We welcome your parents, Mom or Dad.

So why does Dad lose out to Mom in this survey?

Most say Dad:

  • Has worse hygiene than Mom (75%)
  • Is more likely than Mom to say inappropriate things (75%)
  • Is sloppier than Mom (70%)
  • Is lazier than Mom (68%)
  • Would want to control the TV more than Mom (69%)

Who Chose Dad Over Mom?

Dads should stay on good terms with their first child. Of the one third of all respondents who choose to move in Dad over Mom, most of them are the oldest child.  Still they don’t think they should have to bear the burden.  Of all the folks polled, 32% say the child that lives the closes should bear the most responsibility for their aging parents.  While 27% say the most responsible for aging parents should fall to the child with the least obligations.  (i.e, no spouse or children)

What’s the Adult Child’s Plan?

When asked what is the plan for their aging parents – Almost 3.4 of respondents (72%) say they DON’T have a plan. More than half (54% ) say they haven’t even talked about it.

Money Motivator?

41% say they would prefer their parents remain in their own home.  But when this is not possible, we suggest a Elder Care Facilities  in Menifee/Sun City, California.  We provide assistance in their daily living.  When money is a concern, there are ways to get State or Federal assistance, if you qualify.  We strongly urge seniors and their adult children to get a plan, be sure you know how you will handle the senior’s living quarters when they need daily assistance.